According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, I am, as one of the sixteen personality types, an INFJ—Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, Judging. INFJs are referred to as Counselors, and belong as one of the four types in the temperament group called the Idealists. According to Wiki’s entry on INFJs:
The basic characteristics are:
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sensitive
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quiet leaders
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great depth of personality – intricately and deeply woven, mysterious, and highly complex, sometimes puzzling even to themselves
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introverted
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abstract in communicating
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live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities – part of an unusually rich inner life
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artistic (having a natural affinity for art), creative, and easily inspired
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very independent
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orderly view towards the world but within themselves arranged in a complex way only they could understand
INFJs are conscientious and value-driven. They seek meaning in relationships, ideas, and events, with an eye toward better understanding themselves and others. Using their intuitive skills, they develop a clear vision, which they then execute decisively to better the lives of others. Like their INTJ counterparts, INFJs regard problems as opportunities to design and implement creative solutions.
Counselors usually have intricate personalities and rich inner lives. They tend to keep their innermost thoughts and emotional reactions to themselves, which can make them tough to get to know. Counselors tend to be private people, possibly because their ability to take in the emotional experiences of others can cause them to be easily hurt. They have great depth of personality and can understand complex issues and individuals.
Counselors often prefer to work on a one-to-one basis with others or to work intensely with people close to them. Counselors are happy doing jobs that require solitude and close attention. They are also happy working with others provided that the personal interactions are not superficial and they are given some quiet time in order to reenergize themselves. Counselors usually exert their influence behind-the-scenes rather than being a visible leader.
Sensitive and complex, they are adept at understanding complicated issues and driven to resolve differences in a cooperative and creative manner.
Accounting for 1–3% of the population, Counselors have a vivid inner life that they may be reluctant to share with those around them. Perceptive of the emotions of others, Counselors are themselves easily hurt, though they may not reveal this except to their closest companions.
INFJs are affable people. They are generally well-liked by their peers and are thought of as close friends and confidants by most other types. Nevertheless, it is difficult for INFJs to let their guard down, which in turn makes it difficult for them to establish close relationships with strangers and new people.
And when it comes to career for INFJs:
The INFJ is a special individual who needs more out of a career than a job. They need to feel as if everything they do in their lives is in sync with their strong value systems – with what they believe to be right. Accordingly, the INFJ should choose a career in which they’re able to live their daily lives in accordance with their deeply-held principles, and which supports them in their life quest to be doing something meaningful. Since INFJs have such strong value systems, and persistent intuitive visions which lend them a sense of “knowing”, they do best in positions in which they are leaders, rather than followers. Although they can happily follow individuals who are leading in a direction which the INFJ fully supports, they will very unhappy following in any other situation.
It is interesting how I got the same result as I did when I last took the MBTI test 11 years ago. And, interestingly, Carl Jung, whose work the MBTI was developed from, was himself an INFJ.
This makes you only the third INFJ person that I’ve come across in my life. :)
I have allways known that I was different, even as a kid. I just couldn’t figure what made me so different. Now I know I’m an infj
Cool. I’m ENFJ, your extroverted counterpart!
I’m an INFJ as well. I have some friends that currently are claiming that the description of it, is their new manual to me, just because of how well it seems to fit.
Hello, and I would be the fourth! I also am INFJ and a Myers-Briggs consultant. The INFJ type is the most rare of all the 16. It is rather accurately estimated that only about 1-2% of all the men in the world are INFJ and only 2-3% of all women are that type.
Our perfect love and relationship compatibility match would likely be the ENFP or the ENTP…believe it or not.
All the best!
Ken
DW – :) And I presume you are one yourself…
Evie – Indeed you are!
Rain – Good luck to your friends trying to figure out the INFJ… :P
Ken – Thank you for the tidbit!
Hmm… I did the facebook app version a few months back and I’m an ENTJ. Which makes us tribesmen. :P
That makes you the second ENTJ I know. :)
I am an infj, but im only 19, and its kinda hard, i do doubt and question myself a lot yet i always help others before me, and i love are math and science for the fact i like to question the unknown i love to listen to problems and try to help them make things better, i do express myself better in poetry than i do out loud, i am very seclusive when it comes to realathionships involving anything to do with marrage for the fact that i always think too much of it, i get serious about it and i cannot help but open doors that when i open them they never close….
im always working on something, i dont mind hanging around people my age group and i make “friends” with them to thier standard but by my standard, i really have no “real friends” except for this guy that is named brian, he is a perfectionist academic, more than likely a pal, but i consider him a friend, wait actually now that i think of it, he’s a pal, but yea its really hard to find another guy out there that is infj like me so scratch guy friends off of the list, and i do hang around females more often because they tend to satisfy my want or need to help others, simply by listening it pleasures me, dont know why but it does, and whenever i am asked a question about “how do you” you as in me, feel about a certain thing my standard reaction is always “i really dont care” but that is because i always tend to want to help thier needs w/o even thinking about my own….? im a guy, i mean are guys with infj personalities hard to find, ive met a couple of entp female and really wanted to get them better but for some reason im more drawn to the counterpart of infj for the fact that they are more of a mystery, and that to me says “hey look come talk to me, try to read me.” and it sorta drives me insane
Over the course of seventeen years I have taken this test dozens of times. Initially, I was an ENTP. Scant years later, in my early twenties, I was and INTP, then an INFP. Recently, in my thirties, I tested as an INFJ, and a few weeks later I was an INFP. I think the reason the J showed up is that my feeling and intuition gives me cause to question my motives and actions, lest I violate my own ethics. The obvious type though is that I am an Introverted iNtuitive Feeling type. I have not tested as a Thinking type since my early twenties, certainly due to the experiences of life in which I was engaged. And after every time taking the test, my second category has consistently been iNtuition. Interestingly, I have noticed almost all of my closest friends are NFs.
Hi joshuawelcome,
I try to help people around me whenever they have problems and I always offer them my listening ear.
I am not that inclined towards maths but I think I am a marginal history and science buff. I can burn hours away on wikipedia (not the best source, I know).
I express myself through my writing and badly composed poems.
As much as I offer people a listening ear, I slam the door on people’s faces when it comes to my private life.
I do not have a very loose definition of “friends” and “friendship”. I haven’t had a best friend or serious confidante for the past 20 years.
I get on well with guys on a superficial level (and a listening ear for the few who are open about their problems). My platonic relationships with women go slightly deeper and sometimes I get myself emotionally tied to their problems when I listen to them. And I enjoy listening because it shows that I have been entrusted with something that comes from their heart.
I have a big problem with answering the question “how do you do?” in the past until I realised that white lies would probably not scare people away.
I am drawn towards a couple of INFJ females that I know but strangely they are not drawn towards me or maybe that’s because I am not attractive or interesting enough to them.
Regards
D W
Interesting commentary. I’m continually fascinated by the MBTI info, as well as Florence Littauer’s book, Personality Plus. I’ve found that we INFJ’s are extremely rare indeed. So much so, that the side of my Melancholic temperament, could render me deeply depressed at times in the past. A masterfully executed plan of deeper introspection of self (from God) has brought me out of that phase of life, free to move ahead. I recently found counseling to be my high calling, and am intently set on acquiring the education to accomplish that goal. May God bless you all,
~Vince
Thanks for sharing that, Vince.
I just happened to come across this when I was looking up information on this personality type. I’ve looked up and taken as many tests as I could find and I got the same result every time. It just so happens I am another INFJ and I guess people like me are pretty scarce. I didn’t think I would actually find others who think and feel the same way so this is quite a surprise. Anyway, thanks for sharing this information because it is very helpful.
~Rob~
You’re welcome, Rob.
Hello,
I am currently in a relationship with INFJ male and it is increasingly stressful to consider all the best options to communicate with him everytime. He is probably unaware of how hard I am struggling to talk to him because i am in emotional conflict with my ego and in fear that if i do speak, it will only drive him further ‘in’ his cave or whatever.
>> Can someone help me improve myself in this situation?
>> How should i approach an INFJ? indirectly? directly?
>> Is this something that will change overtime with support, or will INFJ give up because they cannot understand the issue?
>> If so, what is the best way to guide him to my perspective?
Indirectly, for sure.
And for communication to begin, you’ll have to rein in your ego.
Wow i am exactly in the same place as you and am driving myself crazy over this.
Take heart, then, that you’re not the only one…
Hi. I am 24 and attend Texas State Univeristy and am also an INFJ. It’s good to see people embrace this type of personality, cus to be honest I really don’t enjoy it as much as others seem to. I can’t ever get out of my own head and I hate feeling everyones pain all of the time. I once read that INFJ’s tend to be surrounded by people that are messed up because unconsciously the INFJ wants to fix them so they don’t feel their pain. This is how I am, I don’t socialize with to many people that have a lot of stuff going for them. Not on purpose just naturally. I do find it funny though how I can be at a party with lots of people and I will eventually make my way to the balcony or wherever and wait for someone to come out there to vent. It seems that’s when I feel the most alive.
I can be at a party with lots of people and I will eventually make my way to the balcony or wherever and wait for someone to come out there to vent. It seems that’s when I feel the most alive.
You hit the nail on the head. :)
Well, I have never heard of this typology before 2 days ago, when I found a test on the internet while I was searching for job interview tips.
I filled out the test and also an other one, and both gave me the same result: I am an INFJ.
It was very enlightening to read that I actually belong to a “group” :-D. Since my childhood I heard so many times from friends and other people that I am “strange”, “different”, or “special” and it was sometimes very frustrating to be “different” all the time. It did cost me a lot of energy “pretending” to be “normal” especially during official interactions :-DDD But now I know that I am not alone, that there are people with the same characteristics, and its such a relief, honestly. :-)
It’s okay to be different.
Hi I’m Stu, and im 24,
I have recently discovered these personality types via myers briggs, and have become rather fascinated by it. i took a test, came back as ENFJ, read more and more into it. And it made alot more sense for the INJF to be the result. Always have been an introvert, but through environmental changes created charachters within myself to play an extrovert.
ive always been different than pretty much anyone i have known, only ever met a couple of people with the same mindset.
Within my social group i play the big brother to alot of people (specifically a “family” that has grown out of us all having a love fopr music) , whether there younger or older, im the big brother, even my older sister sees me more like a big brother than a little one. I have a nature where if i see people in trouble, i want to help, share my knowledge of experience with them to help gain knowledge themselves so they are able to overcome there problems themself. It started as a band, go to rehersals, make some tunes, 3 months down the line, theres 20-25 people in the practice room, all having the time of there lives. I took it upon myself to be the frontman of this musical outlet, knowing it was something i would severley struggle with. I love all my intruments(play drums, guitar, bass)…but this was something very different. I had stood myself in a position where my doors always open to people, and they all know they can come to me with anything, ive been neglecting this “seat” for a while, and have recently realised, thats where im supposed to sit. And i feel happier within myself doing this. With unlocking peoples potentials as a primary focus of this band, its somewhere i have to be. I can see it in everyone, and i can always help them find it. But i cant do this without learning to connect with each and everyone of them on a one:one basis.
I LOVE ART, of any kind shape or form.
I apologise if my post is rather unstructured, im happy to find this community, and quite eager to share my mindset. Obviously this is just the surface, my rabbit hole never stops getting deeper, always digging and fishing around my sub concious, sometimes id like it to stop, theres a couple of people i know that when im with them it calms, but never stops.
Thanks for reading :D
Love